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Virtual Shiva: How to Run One Online

When family is far away or a large in-person gathering isn't possible, a virtual shiva allows the community to show up meaningfully from anywhere in the world.

When Virtual Shiva Makes Sense

Virtual shiva — also called a Zoom shiva — became common during the COVID-19 pandemic and has since established itself as a meaningful option when:

  • Family members are geographically spread across different cities or countries
  • Health concerns limit in-person gatherings
  • The mourner prefers a hybrid format with some in-person and some virtual visitors
  • International family cannot travel for the burial

    • A virtual shiva is not a replacement for the intimacy of in-person presence — but it ensures no one is excluded from offering comfort.

    Tools You'll Need

  • Video conferencing: Zoom, Google Meet, or similar
  • A stable internet connection at the shiva house
  • A designated host who manages the virtual room
  • A TheShivaPage page to share all logistics (address, virtual link, hours)

    • How to Structure the Virtual Shiva

    Option 1: Open Room

    Keep a Zoom room open during visiting hours. People join and leave freely, just like an in-person visit. This most closely mimics the natural flow of shiva.

    Option 2: Scheduled Sessions

    Schedule 30–60 minute blocks throughout the day. Each session has a defined group of visitors. Good for families who want more structure.

    Option 3: Hybrid

    Physical visitors at the house plus a Zoom link displayed on a screen or tablet in the room. Remote visitors can see and speak with the mourners in real time.

    Virtual Shiva Etiquette

  • Mute yourself unless speaking — background noise is disruptive in a group setting
  • Keep your camera on — presence is part of the comfort
  • Introduce yourself before speaking, especially if the mourner may not recognize you on screen
  • Don't dominate — keep visits brief, as you would in person
  • Still wait for the mourner to acknowledge you before launching into conversation

    • Sharing the Virtual Shiva Link

    Post the Zoom link on your TheShivaPage page under visiting hours or in the custom message field. This ensures anyone who visits the page can find the virtual option without needing to ask separately.

    Sending Condolences When You Can't Attend

    TheShivaPage's condolence wall lets anyone leave a written message — regardless of time zone or availability. This creates a permanent, meaningful record that the family can return to in the weeks and months ahead.

    [Leave a condolence on this shiva page →]

    Frequently Asked Questions

    What is a virtual shiva?

    A virtual shiva is a shiva conducted via video conferencing (such as Zoom) that allows people who cannot attend in person to offer condolences and support.

    How do you run a Zoom shiva?

    Create a Zoom meeting link, share it via your TheShivaPage page, and keep the room open during visiting hours. A designated host manages the technical aspects.

    Is virtual shiva halachically acceptable?

    Opinions vary among halachic authorities. Many permit virtual shiva as a supplement to in-person observance, especially when distance makes travel impossible. Consult your rabbi.

    What are the best tools for virtual shiva?

    Zoom is the most commonly used platform due to its familiarity. Google Meet is a good alternative. A TheShivaPage page helps centralize the logistics.

    Can you leave a condolence online if you can't attend shiva?

    Yes. TheShivaPage's condolence wall allows anyone to leave a written message. The family receives a notification and has the messages to return to after the shiva ends.

    Coordinating a Shiva?

    TheShivaPage helps families and communities coordinate everything in one place — for free.

    Create a Shiva Page →

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